Old fashioned

[greybeta]

One day, my scheming roommate hypothetically asked me a question*:
Roomie: Would you be okay if one day I brought a girl to the room to sleep with me in my bed?
Me: Uh, no?
Roomie: Why not?
Me: Two words…child support.
Roomie: Dude, it’s not like we’re going to do anything. Why would you be so opposed to it?
Me: Hmmm, I can’t quite explain it at this moment.

But now I can explain a little better, and part of it is the fact that I was raised a Brimstone Baptist. Now that I think about it a little more, though, I see that my culture plays as big of a role, if not bigger.

A little caveat before I begin, my parents are olde fashioned. Sure there’s the new or American way of dating, but they know the old Vietnamese way.

See, things aren’t quite official until your parents meet their parents. And sleeping in the same bed, even if no funny stuff happens, would be considered going against that valuable tradition. It’d be tossing it aside and leaving it out to dry.

You can call me old fashioned.

One of my few remaining problems is finding a way to stop my scheming roommate’s ceaseless complaints of “I need a girl, Daniel. A hot girl.” Actually, that one might already be answered.

*this is not an exact transcript of the conversation

Comments

[kimmaline.livejournal.com]

I totally get why you don't want funny stuff, as you called it, to be going on if the two of you share a room. I have positively zero issue with pre-marital sex (I rather endorse it, actually) but even I would be uncomfortable with that.

That being said, I understand your issue with YOU not wanting to sleep in a bed with someone, but you know that you can't impose your values on someone else. I know you know that. :)

[greybeta.livejournal.com]

I may not be able to impose my values on people, but I sure can let them know that I am not comfortable with certain things. Fortunately, my roomie and I have come to an understanding on this.