Old fashioned

[greybeta]

One day, my scheming roommate hypothetically asked me a question*:
Roomie: Would you be okay if one day I brought a girl to the room to sleep with me in my bed?
Me: Uh, no?
Roomie: Why not?
Me: Two words…child support.
Roomie: Dude, it’s not like we’re going to do anything. Why would you be so opposed to it?
Me: Hmmm, I can’t quite explain it at this moment.

But now I can explain a little better, and part of it is the fact that I was raised a Brimstone Baptist. Now that I think about it a little more, though, I see that my culture plays as big of a role, if not bigger.

A little caveat before I begin, my parents are olde fashioned. Sure there’s the new or American way of dating, but they know the old Vietnamese way.

See, things aren’t quite official until your parents meet their parents. And sleeping in the same bed, even if no funny stuff happens, would be considered going against that valuable tradition. It’d be tossing it aside and leaving it out to dry.

You can call me old fashioned.

One of my few remaining problems is finding a way to stop my scheming roommate’s ceaseless complaints of “I need a girl, Daniel. A hot girl.” Actually, that one might already be answered.

*this is not an exact transcript of the conversation

Comments

[kimmaline.livejournal.com]

I totally get why you don't want funny stuff, as you called it, to be going on if the two of you share a room. I have positively zero issue with pre-marital sex (I rather endorse it, actually) but even I would be uncomfortable with that.

That being said, I understand your issue with YOU not wanting to sleep in a bed with someone, but you know that you can't impose your values on someone else. I know you know that. :)

[greybeta.livejournal.com]

I may not be able to impose my values on people, but I sure can let them know that I am not comfortable with certain things. Fortunately, my roomie and I have come to an understanding on this.

[sleepybluekitty.livejournal.com]

Me: Two words…child support.

hehehehehhehe :p great answer! I guess you would have to put me in the old fashioned corner also. There just isn't any reason for them to sleep in the same bed, not to mention the temptation -to- do stuff is ever present.

Much Hope and Many Blessings! =^_^=

[greybeta.livejournal.com]

Yep, it's just your typical case of different value systems.

[wldntulk2knwwho.livejournal.com]

I'd be against my roommate inviting someone of the opposite sex to spend the night while I was there. It just doesn't seem very appropriate to me.

[greybeta.livejournal.com]

We would know, wouldn't we?

[md2020.livejournal.com]

I can't count the amount of random girls that i have fallen asleep with in bed. Sometimes I'd just call up on of my close girl friends or they call me and we have sleeping buddy night and nothing bad ever happend...

I usually don't like Old Fashion people Daniel, but you don't really ever seem like one. But i understand the "how I was raised "thing my parents allowed me to have huge parties, lie to other parents about having my girlfriends stay the night, heck one of the funniest nights ever is when my dad gave me condoms at the dinner table...

what a world we live in, with such different people in it :-)

[greybeta.livejournal.com]

I suppose I'm a bit different of an old fashioned guy in that I don't try to impose my values on other people. And I'm certainly not naive enough to believe that everyone thinks the way I do.

This world is indeed a diverse place =)

[miripanda.livejournal.com]

But you would'nt have a problem if you were out for the night, right? My best friend is living in a frustrating situation where her roommate refuses to allow a male visitor overnight, even when my gal was in a LDR, and this was a Once-Every-3-Months kind of visit. My gal's roommate could easily have slept in the other room of the suite that they share with 2 other girls, but was unwilling to do that because of her own moral code.

I completely understanding not wanting to be in the same room while your roommate and his gal swap fluids. Or play yahtsee, or WHATEVER, but I kind of can't understand why you'd be unwilling to give him a night alone every so often, provided he reciprocated whenever you wanted time alone (or with someone else).

[greybeta.livejournal.com]

If I am out of the room, I don't mind my scheming roommate doing what he wants. He's brought a girl over when I've gone home for the weekend before. It's not like I am heartless. I told him I'd go sleep in the suite if he put a rubber band on the door to warn me (actually, I told him to put up a do not enter sign hehehe).

[happydog.livejournal.com]

if you don't want your roommate sleeping with a girl in your room, that is absolutely fine. By the way, there is NO WAY that a guy, sleeping in the same bed, with a "hot girl," will NOT lead to "funny stuff."

If he wants to hook up, let him hook up at somebody else's dorm room/apartment/whatever.

[greybeta.livejournal.com]

But the response is always "Nothing's going to happen!" I've given up arguing that one.

[happydog.livejournal.com]

Nothing's going to happen. Yeah RIGHT!

[correspondguy.livejournal.com]

But he said nothing will happen, and I believe him.

I also believe in the Easter Bunny, the Tooth Fairy, and that you can believe what the President says on television.